This just in: it looks like British power couple Suki Waterhouse and Robert Pattinson might just be engaged. The two have been romantically linked since 2018, and just last month announced that they were expecting in an onstage moment that went viral. Pictures of the pair out and about in London have recently appeared, with actress and singer-songwriter Waterhouse wearing a diamond ring on her left hand. More precisely, the style of ring—that hints at the pair’s engagement—is a toi et moi design. This style of ring is one of the trendiest for engagements right now. They usually feature a coiled band with two ends set with a pair of matching gemstones. It’s deeply symbolic of romantic unions (‘toi et moi‘ translates from the French to ‘you and me’), and was popularised in the 18th century when Napoleon Bonaparte proposed to Joséphine de Beauharnais with one.
The enduring style is in vogue at the moment, with a host of A-lister engagements like Emily Ratajkowski’s and Ariana Grande’s being sealed with toi et moi rings. Waterhouse’s ring might just be the latest to join the trend, with a princess-cut diamond matched with a pear-shaped one, set on a pavé band.
What’s fun is that jewellers and designers are having fun with the concept these days: the stones don’t necessarily have to match, and in fact can look extra stunning with a well-proportioned touch of contrast. The shapes of the designs have evolved too, with jewellers like Gaia Repossi abstracting the coiled band to create a floating effect, or Matthew Harris of New York brand Mateo splitting the band to create a criss-cross shape. What’s left to define a toi et moi is, quite simply, a ring with two parts (the toi and the moi, if you will) that make the whole.
And as our definitions and understanding of love have evolved, so too has the suitability of toi et moi rings to express it. There are easy to wear designs that suit the everyday, like Chanel’s rendition from the Coco Crush collection that simplifies the form into joined half-bands of white and beige gold. Or the sculptural beauty of Singapore brand State Property’s Nemara twin orb designs, romance regardless. There’s certainly more than just romantic or self-love, too. Kylie Jenner, for one, shares a matching toi et moi pair—set with pear- and radiant-cut diamonds—with her daughter Stormi. It’s a maternal bond that the Los Angeles designer Katherine Kim also tapped on when designing her Mommy+Me range, which features one bigger and one smaller diamond that the brand characterises as a Mommy diamond and a Baby diamond—cute!
Here, a look at 20 toi et moi rings that range from engagement-worthy pieces set with diamonds to stylish investments with coloured gemstones.
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Chaumet Joséphine Duo Éternel in white gold with pear-cut diamond and sapphire, and pavé diamonds, price on request
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Boucheron Serpent Bohème Toi Et Moi small motif ring in white gold with diamonds, $16,550
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Graff Duet Wraparound ring in white gold with round brilliant and pear diamonds, price on request
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Chanel Coco Crush Toi et Moi small ring in white and beige gold with diamonds, $5,100
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Anita Ko Princess Eternity ring in white gold with round brilliant and pear diamonds, $6,442
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Bulgari Divas' Dream ring in rose gold with diamonds and carnelian, $3,700
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State Property Nemara Grand Pavé ring in yellow gold with diamonds, $12,920
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Van Cleef & Arpels Two Butterfly Between the Finger ring in yellow gold with round brilliant and marquise-cut diamonds, and lapis lazuli, $33,500
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Chopard Precious Lace Nuage in ethical white gold with round brilliant and pear diamonds, $36,400
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Katkim Mommy+Me yellow gold ring with oval diamonds, $14,569
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Mateo ring in 14-carat gold with round brilliant and baguette-cut diamonds, and trillion-cut green amethysts, $5,512 from Net-A-Porter
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Dior Rose des Vents ring in pink gold with diamonds and onyx, $5,000
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Fabergé Essence Rose Gold Crossover ring in rose gold with diamonds, $2,658 from Lee Hwa Jewellery
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Fred Belles Rives ring in pink gold with diamonds and rhodocrosite, price on request
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Pomellato Sabbia ring in rose gold with white and brown diamonds, price on request
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House of Meraki Nyra Toi et Moi ring in white and yellow gold with diamonds and pear-cut Zambian emerald, $3,325 from Net-A-Porter
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Kamyen white and yellow gold ring with oval-cut white and yellow diamonds, $10,046 from Net-A-Porter
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Messika My Twin Toi et Moi ring in white gold with round brilliant, emerald- and pear-cut diamonds, $5,419 from Net-A-Porter
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Repossi Serti sur Vide white gold ring with pear diamonds, $21,500
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