“Being able to pleasure yourself may not feel natural for some, especially if you didn’t grow up talking about sex or are healing for sexual trauma, but learning what type of touch you like and discovering how your body moves can be very empowering,” says Dr Amina Sugimoto, founder of Fermata. These experts share how to best initiate your psyche and body to experiencing the power of self-touch with these femtech vibrators.
Get to know yourself
“Look at yourself in the mirror, understand your anatomy, find out what feels good and what doesn’t. Be open and curious without judgement while exploring your body,” says Gabriel Volchek, co-founder of Xes Products, on how to cultivate a better relationship with yourself.
Practice for pleasure, not perfection
“Sexual confidence and understanding what you like are an ever-evolving journey. Practising and exploring allows you to continue to develop your own likes, dislikes, desires and fantasies,” says Volchek on boundaries.
Unpack your sexual story
Are you feeling guilt, condemnation or shame? Consider the stigmas from your culture, family or religion that you may have internalised. “Challenge these narratives to continually assess if these ideas and beliefs work for you or if you would like to seek new perceptions,” advises Volchek.
Lelo Sona 2
For a product that will leave you buzzing with pleasure, the “clitorally mind-blowing” extra-soft silicone-built Sona 2 stimulates the body without direct skin contact via sonic waves. Its waterproof nature means that you can enjoy exploring your body in the bed, bath and beyond as it goes from gentle murmur to hearty pulses, automatically intensifying when pressed against the body so that you get the climax you deserve. Available at lelo.com
Je Joue Mimi Soft Clitoral Vibrator
A vibrator for the vulva, clitoris and just about any sensitive spot such as the nipples, the pebble-like design of Mimi Soft is discreet, chic and non-intimidating for solo pleasure. It offers stimulation with its squishy, soft-touch silicone and rumbly five-speed, seven-pulse patterned vibrations. As with many femtech toys, the more intense in power, the louder the buzz, but it’s worth it for this toe-curlingly good experience.
Dame Eva II
Men are twice as likely to orgasm during sex as women according to Dame, which aims to close the ‘pleasure gap’ with its flagship Eva II vibrator to be used in both solo and coupled sex. It is a lightweight, waterproof, hands-free vibrator made of medical-grade silicone with wings that fit snugly under the labia. Sitting atop the clitoris, it offers a steady and sustained build-up of sensations without distractions, so you can truly enjoy the moment.
Lelo Soraya Wave
“Big phallic toys can be a bit intimidating, but if that’s what sparks your curiosity, go for it,” encourages Fermata’s Dr Sugimoto. “The self-pleasure journey is a personal and customisable one, so always go with your gut. According to a Vogue Singapore reviewer, this luxe, matte black, easy-grip toy offers the best of both worlds with the penetrative and external stimulation components coming with mind-numbingly powerful pulsations. Sure, it’s not for the faint of heart but it’s guaranteed to show you a good time.
Rocks Off Ruby Glow Vibrator
“Able-bodied people may take for granted being able to hold a sex toy in position for the needed duration, being able to have the fine motor skills to press through various buttons on products, being able to position themselves in easy positions without pain or discomfort and so much more,” says Xes Products‘ Gabriel Volchek.
Dame Arc G-Spot Vibrator
A powerful yet no-fuss, easy-use vibrator that not only tantalises the g-spot but the vulva and clitoris. It offers five vibrational pulses in five intensities, all wrapped in a medical-grade silicone wand. Those with hand-mobility concerns will be pleased to know that its long handle helps you hit all the right spots without straining your wrist.